About

The Lone Twin Network is a voluntary support group run by and for twinless twins, over the age of 18, whose loss has occurred at or around birth, in childhood or during adulthood.

We are a UK based group but also have many members from all over the world.

Through meetings and personal contact, we aim to offer a friendly and comfortable environment in which to talk openly and honestly about how it feels to be without your twin. You will find there is a wide variety of experiences and circumstances of loss within the members of the group – please remember, you are not alone.

As we come to know each other through the meetings and network list, we will find mutual support. Some may wish to examine ways of increasing awareness of this profound and unique loss, so that those affected – both lone twins and those related to them – will be able to cope more easily and with greater understanding. We endeavour to help ease the pain of loss and loneliness that we all feel in some way, during our journey through this particular grief.

The network list is the means by which members can make contact with one another as soon as they join the Network. As well as the name and general location, it gives details of the sex of their twin, whether or not they were identical and the age at which their twin died. Additional space is provided for other information which surviving twins may wish to add. Any twin wishing to contact another is free to do so, but there is no obligation for members to participate in ways other than those they have chosen. For example, email addresses or telephone numbers need not be included in the Network list.

Origins of the Network

Between 1983 and 1986, 219 lone twins replied to an invitation from Joan Woodward, herself a lone twin. to participate in her research project into the response of twins to the death of their twin. The findings were presented at the 1988 International Conference of Twin Studies in Amsterdam and subsequently published in their journal. On February 25 1989, at Queen Charlotte’s Hospital, London, 31 of the lone twins originally interviewed by Joan met together for the first time and found they had a great deal to share with one another. It was a momentous day.

Those present divided into four groups; those whose twin had died at or around the time of birth; members whose twin had died in childhood and those whose twin had died in adult life. A separate group was formed for those whose twin had died in traumatic circumstances. After this initial meeting, Joan Woodward offered to compile a Register of Lone twins. As membership grew, the ‘Lone Twin Network’ was formed, and has continued to evolve to meet the needs of those who have experienced twin bereavement. There are currently over 650 members in the network.

Be Part of Lone Twin Network on Facebook

Members have the opportunity to interact with other Lone Twin Network members in a confidential Facebook group. Once your LTN membership is confirmed, we’ll invite you to join the group. Please note, because of the personal nature of the issues discussed by members, we only offer this opportunity to LTN members and we won’t be able to accept anyone into the Facebook LTN Group membership until we know you via joining the LTN core group.

64 thoughts on “About

  1. Becky died February 25, 2019and it feels like it was this morning. Its horrific. The pain never goes sway. I’m sorry for your loss. I really am. I wish I had more time with Becky. I do cherish every moment spent with my twin as I’m sure you do too. It took me 3 hours to go through mine andbeckys texts from 2-25-19 to 11-8-18. I was accused of having an affair because she and I messaged so much. Please keep your head up and I’m here if you need me. I can understand except you have 20 years on me and becky

  2. My name is Jessica. My identical twin, Rebbecca, passed away 2-25-19 and that’s when I died,too. My family has told me they dont know what to say so they dont day anything at all or it’s time to “Get over it, get through it, get on with it” . Every single family member has either stopped talking to me or put me down saying ” I’m selfish and I need to let others grieve like Becky’s husband, he lost his spouse”. Wait, what? How can they even say that to me? He killed her emotionally and through stressing her out to the point her heart actually quit. I fought her leaving me all night the night she passed. I actually beat my husbnad up in our sleep to the point he had knots on his head! Omg!
    A week before she passed I had a dream I was sentenced to the electric chair and when I finally gave in to completing this horrific death sentence, it was the easiest thing I’ve ever done. Becky’s catsent me TIM McGraw’s ” live like you were dying” song a week before she died.
    So much to say to tell my story but to keep it readable I must say I havent felt any better than the day she left me here, alone. In fact, a psychic told me Becky Rashad to jump me to safety life because my pit of despair has been so deep it’s almost killed me many times. I believe this because my father had to grab onto me the day Becky died and tell me “you’re not going anywhere!: he has spent cou less hours with me in my room and on the phone with our mom, to make sure I was going to survive the manic episodes I endured for so long.
    Anyways, please, if you think I am capable of handling another twinless twin, lone twin, and all that it entails, please, contact me.im not hard to find. I need help, too. Substancesdont helpand my depression has gotten extremely severe to the point I’ve been kicked out of psy history offices.please help

  3. Hello, my twin brother died at 1 year old, he was born with learning difficulties and eventually died of pneumonia, im 23 now and i am still trying to fill this void i have in my life, no matter what i do, i cant get rid of the lonliness and its starting to get a bit much for me, i live a happy life and i am extremely outgoing but i still struggle when im by myself, its as if im missing someone or something that doesnt exist. I visit his grave but doesnt really help. any information would be greatly appreciated and im more than happy to speak to anyone that is needing a little help too. 🙂 Cheers,

    Ben Miller – Scotland

  4. I am a lone twin, just got back from the funeral of my identical Twin Mike, it seems very strange alone. Very Very Sad.

    • I also lost my twin this year, this quarantine only worsens my grief because there are few ways to destroy the mind .. everything is very difficult

      • Hi, just wanted to say soo sorry, understand all your losses. Even if its 1 day, or at bith, still devastating. I lost my identical twin 5 years ago, with sepsis. She was 65. What a waste!! We were conjoined twins, and i always thought we would die together. Im now 70, and i feel her every day. She walks beside me. Dont give up, make the best of each day. Especially now. Have fun, find positives, remember your twin is watching you

      • Ah soo sorry. Just remember tour twin walks beside you. Whatever the age of your loss, stay positive. Im a 70 year old conjoined twin, lost my twin 5 years ago. I thought we would die together. She had sepis, and did within 24 hours. Especially now, try to be positive and find joy in little things.

  5. I lost my twin sister on 8th February 2020 with undiagnosed leukaemia she passed away within. 12 hours I was with her but I am totally devastated- I am lost without her so is her husband and 3 daughters. We are 62. Funeral is on 28th. Coroner inquest insitu

    • Becky died February 25, 2019and it feels like it was this morning. Its horrific. The pain never goes sway. I’m sorry for your loss. I really am. I wish I had more time with Becky. I do cherish every moment spent with my twin as I’m sure you do too. It took me 3 hours to go through mine andbeckys texts from 2-25-19 to 11-8-18. I was accused of having an affair because she and I messaged so much. Please keep your head up and I’m here if you need me. I can understand except you have 20 years on me and becky

  6. A éramos Breno que Deus esta com ele
    E eu sou Brena … compartilhamos nossas vidas por 26 anos onde nunca brigamos .
    Hoje me sinto como um peso de dor ou alegria onde todos olham para mim e lembra dele principalmente minha mae.. a qual tento fortificar mais nao consigo . To com turbilhão de sentimentos .Breno acidento de moto indo para a festa de Natal

  7. Perdi meu irmao gemeo na véspera do natal agora 24/12/2019 , eu era a pessoa que mais amava o natal e agora meu coração esta partido , sinto o tempo todo que eu quem deveria ter partido, e não sei como vou lidar agora sem ele..éramos sempre unidos eu sentia o que ele sentia, adoecíamos juntos, alegres, depressão tudo que ele pensava eu sentia e vice versa…só não me mato porque sei que meu maninho esta no céu e ele quero me reencontrar. Gosto de falar com quem é gemeo porque entendemos os que é ser especial.

  8. Hello,
    I am a twin. I have known my whole life as my family didn’t keep it from me. My twin died when my mom was 6 months pregnant I believe. Then she was put on bed rest until I was delivered. I have always looked for someone to be close with. I am married but even that doesn’t feel close enough. Some in my family accused me of using Rebecca as a crutch so I’ve always pushed to be on my own. I have always struggled with my weight and my identity of who I am supposed to be. As an adult I will be overcome with a need to cry frequently but it doesn’t keep me from working. I havent been diagnosed with depression or anxiety. I recognize the feelings but try to act “normal” whatever that word means. Thank you for letting me share.

  9. Hi
    I lost my twin on December 6th,2018
    We are 74 but only lived together for the first two years of our lives, being adopted by our mother’s brother’s families. Our mother died,aged 37;our father had Parkinson’s so was unable look after us twins and our elder sister- he died when we were 8years old but we had no contact with him after we’d been adopted. During our childhood we lived apart my sister twin in CoVentry and myself in Aberystwyth. We managed to see each other for about 4hours each year. Latterly we have seen each other much more and grown so close.
    I now feel a bit like a 3 legged dog.
    Very strange.. very angry at times as she basically gave up.
    We will be 75 this Saturday- 23rd.
    I will survive but though I’ve lost people before this feels very different.
    I just thought you might appreciate a slightly different angle on the’lone twin’ situation.
    Regards
    Dave Piears
    piears@aol.com

  10. Hello,
    I am a lone twin who lost her identical twin at age 2. I ended up being an only child with no other sibling. I have felt so lonely all my life and I have missed my twin so so much. I feel so depressed each time I imagine how my life would have been if she hadn’t died and left me all alone. I really to talk to someone who would understand how I truly feel.
    Thanks,
    Amaka.

    • Hi Amaka, I really understand how you feel. Even though I lost my twin 4 years ago at age 65, the feeling is the same. I feel that you have to live for two of you. To kind of fill that space!! Live , laugh, enjoy for both you and your twin. She or he will always walk beside you, be positive.

  11. I lost my twin at birth. I was never given the details and have no idea where she could be buried. It has pained me my whole life. I want even told I was a twin until I was about 9 years old. Maybe this lost is why I dont like to be alone, always feeling lonely.

    • I understand how you are feeling, I feel exactly the same, luckily I found where my twin brother is buried after some research. The local burial and cemetery dept are very helpful if you have any information.
      I feel half a person all the time and wonder what if, as well. It’s s weird feeling x

    • Yes my condition also same as you llike. We both born in the earth. But after birth of 3 days,
      One of my partner in woobs died,Now i’m 22, still I’m thinking her.. she gave live but she died…it’s kills me lot when I’m thinking her. .

      I want to share more with you
      Please mail me
      dreamcatchernirmal@gmail.com

      Awaiting for your mail

    • Hello. I understand how you feel. I lost my identical twin at birth, too. I miss him very much and all of my life I have felt lonely and empty. I also have no idea where he was buried and it is so sad that I cannot even visit him. Last November I got a little tattoo that symbolises our bond, sometimes I just put my hand gently over this tattoo and think that he is always with me

  12. Hi, I lost my identical twin by miscarriage at three weeks of pregnancy. I’ll delighted to communicate with anybody sharing this.

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